I am sure you have all heard about the tragic events in Santa Barbara where a 22-year-old male went on a rampage killing six students and injuring thirteen more.
He stabbed his three roommates to death and shot and killed three others.
Incredibly tragic and our hearts and prayers go out to all of the victims and their families.
Can we put an end to these senseless tragedies?
I did a little research on the person that went on this senseless killing spree.
All males, in their 20s, who had increasingly withdrawn from society, had no clear direction in life, have been in and out of therapy over the years, had been diagnosed with some sort of behavioral disorder and had difficult relationships with their parents and many of their peers.
Very interesting…it sounds like that’s where the problems and the potential solutions lie.
Yet, what do we hear splashed all over the news after each tragedy? Gun control.
What about the three young men who were killed with the knives? Are we going to discuss knife control?
Even now, the people of the Santa Barbara community, led by a father of one of the victims, has started a movement called #notonemore which is a movement going after the politicians for tougher gun control laws.
Now we can expect the politicians to put on their song and dance in front of the cameras about tighter gun control laws.
While I am not a fan of guns and never will be, and do believe the #notonemore campaign can do some good—I know for certain this is not the issue that needs to be addressed.
I went on to read more about this latest shooter; just like the shooter in Sandy Hook, he was diagnosed as a special needs person, a high-functioning autistic child and some believe it could have led to this attack.
There is absolutely NO correlation to the Asperger Syndrome and violent behavior. None.
Asperger’s is a ‘developmental disorder’ which among many other symptoms is the difficulty with repetitive behaviors and difficulty to understand emotional issues.
Yet, everyone diagnosed with this disorder is unique and different and 99% of the individuals do not exhibit violent behavior.
Let’s try this scenario on for size.
Let’s say these children were growing up and they felt unloved, unsafe, or uncertain about themselves.
Maybe they perceived events in their family life as volatile, confusing or stressful. Maybe they had some fears or some anxiety with social interaction.
Maybe they felt like they weren’t sure how to handle some strong emotions they were feeling like sadness, loneliness or inadequacy.
Maybe, because they were socially afraid and awkward, they didn’t fit in to well at school which led to bullying or isolation.
Any and all of those scenarios are the perfect storm for a young person to grow increasingly anxious while filling up with those negative emotional states on a daily basis.
Those negative emotions, when not dealt with properly, will expand and expand and in many cases such as these, the person snaps.
We simply brand these people as having ‘mental illness’ but I believe otherwise.
I have studied human behavior now for quite some time and here is what I know for sure.
We are ALL a product of our environment.
We capture EVERY experience we have ever had in our subconscious minds and we record those images while forming all of our beliefs from those images.
We also form beliefs from all of our life’s experiences and our PERCEPTION of our experiences.
Quite simply…we record, we perceive and we playback based on our surroundings, conditioning and perception.
These perceptions, beliefs and experiences create our consistent state of being which as mentioned above could be pressure, anxiety, fear, isolation, stress, dissatisfaction, resentment, loneliness or who knows what else.
And when these states aren’t dealt with, they will expand and expand and many times explode into illness, pain or the experiences we see on the news every day.
In short, we are all energy and we are all nothing more than ‘Human DVRs’ capturing—storing–playing back what we see, hear and experience in our lives—based on our perception and formed beliefs.
- Those who think and speak most of struggle will have more.
- Those who always think and speak of illness will have more.
- Those who think and speak more of stress, will attract more stress.
- Those who complain about their relationships will have bad relationships.
- Parents who complain about their kids will have more to complain about with their kids.
It’s that simple and NOTHING OR NO ONE can ever prove those theories inaccurate.
Now, back to the young people…
We need to let them know that they are safe in this world instead of killing their minds with the fears and anxieties most adults experience on a daily basis.
We need to stop creating clones of ourselves in our children.
We need to realize they are watching, listening and matching our energy vibrations on a daily basis.
We need to teach the young people about their emotions and why they experience certain emotions that don’t make them feel so good.
We need to teach them that it’s COMPLETELY normal to experience all of those emotions like inadequacy, isolation, anger, fear resentment and stress and give them the tools to work through them.
We need to teach them that these are just temporary experiences and can be just a storm cloud passing through if we do the work to shift our focus and state of being elsewhere.
We need to let them know how to work through the challenging experiences in life and to not hold on to the crap from the past.
We need to teach them that it’s OK to fail. We need to teach them how to stay present and in the moment instead of worrying about what ‘might’ happen in the future or how they screwed up in the past.
We need to stop diagnosing these kids with anxiety disorders and realize they are just a product of a stressful environment or society and we need to give them the tools to work through this anxiety.
We need to teach the kids that EVERYTHING in our lives is a product of our consistent thoughts, emotions and state of being and we will create our outer world based on the views in our internal world.
We need to focus on their great qualities instead of riding them for not taking the garbage out, for losing the game or for the ‘C’ they got on their report card.
We should discipline them when needed but make sure that discipline ends with knowing they are loved, supported and cared for, no matter what.
We need to understand that these kids are capable of so much more than we give them credit for and we need to let the young people know that there is greatness inside every one of them…it’s our job to help them find that greatness.
We need to celebrate their brilliance, their uniqueness, and their quirks.
We need to teach them how to be kind to others, how to reach out to people who need it and how to give of themselves without any expectation of something in return.
We need to teach them how to live life through their own eyes and whoever they choose to be in this world is OK.
We need to let them know that we believe in them and let them know that they are loved in this Universe WAY beyond anything they can see with their physical eyes.
And, most importantly, we must love our young people and teach them that this journey we are on is ALL about love.
Love for yourself, love for family, love for your friendships, love for your life’s experiences, love for your passions and love for the fact that you have the gift of experiencing life on this planet.
We must teach them to go out today and be great, to be happy and to lead with love while creating a life worth celebrating.
– Coach Mike